Try New Ways of Dealing With Others

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So many times people become upset as they are always telling someone what should be achieved without results. They nag and nag about the issue but nothing changes. Then they attempt to recruit others to join the sport of trying to inspire through repeated conversation. Wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah.
Eventually the target of this chatter gets angry and starts pointing the finger in the reformer! They deflect the problem onto the person who is attempting to bring positive change.
Are you a nag? Are you trying to”fix” or change another person who is not reacting the way you want? Are you noticing that the other person’s situation is worsening and that you are wearing down?
Unfortunately, no matter how dysfunctional someone’s life seems to be, that person will never change unless they think that life is not working for them anymore. It is not you judgment or opinion or suggestions that will make the difference. No matter how positive you are or how keen to offer support, your actions are really only wearing you down.
Here are some things that you can do otherwise:
Focus on your own behaviour. Be certain that you’re practicing self-care with healthful eating, sleeping and accessing resources that will build you up.
Clearly, and without emotion, write down the things you have valued about another person and the things that you want to see changed.
Insert a deadline to your request saying you will talk again on the deadline to discuss what will happen next based on the situation at that moment.
By way of instance, if you pass your biology exam we will go out for dinner to celebrate. If you abuse me in the future, I will the call authorities.
Do not let their crisis turn into your crisis. In case you have plans and another individual is demanding or dramatic, don’t get derailed but instead continue with your plans.
Make certain that you are not doing what you are asking the other person to stop or start doing! If you want them to get up earlier in the day, ensure you’re up. If you want them to clean up their desk, make sure that yours is clean.
Let the other person make their choices and experience the consequences without trying to”save” them.
Do not expect the other person to think or do things the way that you would.
Never blame yourself for the choices that the other person makes.
Enjoy the serenity that results when you learn how to live and let live.


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